This week, I completed three years of jiu jitsu study. Unfortunately, I didn’t attend any class. I had things to take care of and then mid week my car broke down. I took the car to a mechanic.. Too many excuses.
I did take time to read about anger and start practicing what I am writing. Basically, the goal of living anger free is to move thinking away from selfish concerns and pick up on our natural state to wish good things for ourselves and for others. It is possible that all human beings were born in this natural state but life circumstance changed that state. With determination and persistence, it is possible to move our attention away from clinging to anger, hatred, ill will and towards the part of our mind that knows we all want to be happy. It is also important to remind ourselves that sincerely wishing for the best possible circumstances and outcomes for everyone is a better place for our attention to be.
Actions have consequences, good ones and bad ones. If we come to understand, we can minimize creating a life disappointment and increase our joy. My responses are my actions. My choice of what to do. The action I choice will follow me. If I live in resentment, or if I do an act of kindness, these become causes for future events and states of mind. The action we choice are the only things we have a choice in.
Say the following for 28 days. Picture and name the person that is causing the pain while reciting the following:
” May I be well, May I be happy. May I be free from harm and suffering. May all of my good purposes be fulfilled.”
” May { specific person } be well, may she/he be happy May she/he be free from harm and suffering. May all of her/his good purposes be fulfilled.”
” May all beings be well. May they be happy. May they be free from harm and suffering. May all their good purposes be fulfilled. “
If you keep at it, you can liberate yourself. The path in the right direction.